They say that people in your life are seasons and everything that happens is for a reason. This is often due to the risk that we take in life. As people we try to do things to better our current situation. Whether it’s gambling away our life savings to cutting off someone in traffic to get to a destination faster. We take these risks, because we see them as necessary, even if they don’t work out. Life is a gamble, you win some and you lose some, but sometimes that bet is so severe that you will never recover from it. In my book “Why Ruin Another Life” the character Marva takes a risk in marrying a man to better her life, but this man will forever change her life. They say only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go, but in the case for Marva the risk is too costly and is one she will never forget.
When I wrote the book I focused on the concept of how events or people shape us in life, whether positively or negatively. This would mean all our good and bad habits, our insecurities, our fears are by no mere coincidence but by design, with roots starting back as early as our childhoods.
Psychiatrists delve deep into our pasts to single out the culprit(s) of our dismay—many times blaming the mother.
A word to the wise faulting Mama for not buying you that Betsy Wetsy doll when you were little, even though you threw a hissy ﬁt, may not count as a factor. Ha!
On a more serious note, to sum things up:
We are what we eat, what we take in, what we experience.
Children have fragile minds that are still developing. During this crucial stage the good, the bad, and the ugly can shape their formation. For that reason we must always be very careful what we do and say around children because it can follow them for a lifetime.
In Why Ruin Another Life we later are given some insight as a possible reason for Boyd’s evil deeds. It’s a blueprint to connect the dots in seeing how this character emerged. Nevertheless, there was no justification for his heinous acts.
When we reach adulthood we must put away childish things and do whatever it takes to be responsible functioning adults. Whosoever does not take heed, may with his or her life be following the building block for creating a monster.