In life things are not always as they seem, there are some people whose intentions are not honorable who try to paint a rosy picture to distract, or hide the truth to achieve a hidden agenda. These people have an uncanny ability to sense weakness and naivety, preying on the people that they perceive as weak and innocent. We may all start out believing a person has good intentions, but that illusion can be tainted due to a bad experience. They say “you live and you learn”, but sometimes the lesson comes too late to make a difference in a particular situation, as a result the deceived may find it hard to forgive them-self, because of their gullible nature at the time. In my book “Why Ruin Another Life” the character Marva sees an opportunity that she thinks will better her life, but later learns all opportunities are not golden ones. Over time she see’s the people that she thought were there for her are not what they pretended to be, and forever blames herself for her bad decision making. We always must be mindful that things are not what they appear to be, remember a wolf can be disguised in sheep’s clothing.
Relationships are very complicated, they don’t follow any particular rules. There’s no handbook to guide you through all the intricate patterns that a relationship carries. A song writer once wrote the lyrics “Sometimes it’s kicks and sometimes it’s kicks in the shins,” referring to the ups and the downs of a relationship. Hopefully the good and the bad times serve a purpose to achieve a better understanding in accomplishing a greater bond. The mother and daughter relationship is very complex, depending on how a mother was raised and what she has experienced in her life will dictate how she raises her daughter. To avoid repeating the same mistakes many women have laid on a psychiatrist couch in order to figure out what exactly went wrong in their mother/daughter relationship. In my book “Why Ruin Another Life” three generations of women are the product of dysfunctional mother/daughter relationships. The character Marva pieces together the complicated puzzle of the mistakes of the generation before and realizes her mistakes and tries to put a stop to the dysfunction within the family. every outcome doesn’t always have to be “Que Sera, Sera”?
In our society we are taught to obtain as much as we can. It gets to a point where we are collecting things not out of necessity, but for luxury. Competition plays a large part in our need for materialistic things, we are sent subliminal messages everyday through the media telling us that we are nothing without that product they are trying to sell. Soon we find ourselves living beyond our means, as a result we wind up in great debt, all because we want to be better than the Joneses. We pay a huge price for this rivalry, our aggressive nature becomes more than just the survival of the fittest, it has nothing to do with the essentials, but rather than it’s greed that drives us to act in such ways. In my book “Why Ruin Another Life” the character Hattie greed is so overwhelming that it starts to intrude on other lives, affecting their well being. She is so blinded by that greed she doesn’t realize the lives that she is jeopardizing. Eventually she winds up alienating her loved ones, perhaps Hattie never got the news “all that glitters is not gold.”
Some people learn from their mistakes, while others repeat the same mistakes over and over again. It depends on the person and where they are at in their development in their journey of life. It’s a popular thought that all bad is for the purpose of good , that being said a good or bad result would depend on us and whether we are ready to receive the life lesson. Our ability to coup and adapt to situations have roots as early as our childhood, but we should never use that as an excuse, because we still have the ability to take heed grasping the moral in the story of life. In my book “Why Ruin Another Life” the character Hattie seems to make endless mistakes that she never quite learns from. While the character Marva is remorseful for her mistakes, but she is willing to change her life as a result of those mistakes. In life there’s two roads, you must choose which one you want to travel.
There’s no worse thing that you can do to a person than take away their power. When you do that you’re taking away their will, their freedom and movement. Victims of rape lives have been forever changed, because of this transfer of power. They’ve become withdrawn finding it hard to trust anymore, because of this it makes it difficult to form lasting relationships. The emotional distress that a woman suffers from the physical abuse of rape can dictate their well-being. Not only does it take away their freedom at the time of the rape, but it forever holds them captive throughout their lives. In my book “Why Ruin Another Life”, a dysfunctional Mississippi family is struggling through three generations of rape that effects their lives and the people around them. Rape not only destroys a life, but lives, so when you rape someone you’re not only raping that person, you’re raping people for generations to come.
In the movies the damsel in distress is always saved by the hero from the treacherous villain. It sounds good in movies, but it’s not always the case in real life. Many times that villain in our lives seem indestructible and when you need that hero the most they are nowhere to be found. So maybe we need to be our own heroes and rescue ourselves from the the perils that befall us. One doesn’t need to be some type of “cape crusader” in order to be effective in smashing out trouble. To be in charge of your life you must be mindful that there’s always creatures lurking in the dark waiting to prey on the innocent. If you expose those creatures you take away their power. In my book “Why Ruin Another Life” the character Boyd is that hidden evil in other lives that needs to be exposed and weeded out. When he finally is exposed the damage may be irreversible, changing lives forever. In conclusion we have to be the Batman’s, Superman’s and Wonder Woman’s that fight for true justice and the American way.
Life is always having to say that you’re sorry. As human beings we’re prone to make mistakes, but it’s how we learn from those mistakes that makes us exceptional. Crying over spilt milk has never done anyone any good. Ideally you must mop the spill up, consider what you did wrong, take a deep breath and give it another go. This is easier said than done, people tend to be a glutton for punishment, repeating mistakes over and over again. This seems to be true, when it comes to mistakes made in love. Emotion is a very powerful thing, sometimes we lose ourselves in the moment, which clouds our decisions and loves grip takes a holds up captive. We’ve become slaves to love, forever wrapped in its shackles. In my book “Why Ruin Another Life” the character Marva makes a mistake in love that she forever regrets, a mistake that puts others in jeopardy. Not all the time when love calls you should answer, sometimes you should just let it go to voicemail.