Many women grew up on fairy tales thinking that a “Knight in shining armor” would come and whisk them away, but when they grow up the reality is very different from the fantasy they have been told. They soon realize that finding that “Knight in shining armor” is like finding a needle in a haystack. They learn to deal with the reality of the truth, lowering their expectations. Depending on how a woman was raised and what she experiences will dictate how far she reduces those expectations. One may not be able to have the fantasy, but that doesn’t mean that they should shoot for something way below it, there has to be a middle-ground. Some will find that happy medium and others will shoot way below it and accept almost anything, it all depends on their self-esteem. In my book “Why Ruin Another Life” the character Marva, because of her early experiences didn’t expect much from men and as a result found herself in a abusive relationship, not only putting herself at risk, but those around her. In fairytale land the girl always finds her prince, but the reality of it is if the shoe don’t fit don’t wear it.